Why Hate On @AmandaBynes?

Every single day when I scan through the the news articles, I always see negative words, blogs, and articles being posted about Amanda Bynes, speculating on if she is crazy or not. It makes me wonder, why is it you feel the need to berate this woman? She lives a seemingly normal life that includes drinking Starbucks, working out, and just enjoying herself. It sounds like every other woman from New York to California and around the globe. 

Now I don't know about you, but I remember growing up watching Amanda on television. All That? Remember! We loved her. We looked up to her. We laughed with her! So why is it people feel she is suddenly crazy? What is crazy? Why does the world insist on calling her that? Is crazy carrying someone else's coffee cup? Giving yourself a pep talk at the gym? Getting a new piercing or haircut? If so, then I'm fairly certain every single person I walk by on a daily basis is crazy. Myself included. If she is crazy, which I seriously doubt, it would be no business of anyone's but hers. 

Amanda Bynes appears to be an amazing woman who simply wants to be left alone. She filled many hours of my life, and I'm sure yours as well, with entertainment as she portrayed many different characters on the big and small screen. 

And I have to agree, tabloids tend to pick the worst possible pictures to put in their articles. Not all, but most. So give her a little support! Or leave her be. Mother's always say, "If you don't have anything nice to say, don't say anything at all." Lift up. Don't tear down.

Let's stop the bullying. This IS a form of bullying. And if the girl wants only her twitter pictures posted, then so be it! So here is a high five and a round of applause to a woman who is far stronger than many, because many people would have cracked under all the negativity. 

Good job and you got my support!




Picture Source: www.twitter.com/AmandaBynes

Men Who Are Good In Bed Do This...

Did you ever notice that all your girlfriends always talk about "My guy does this...." or "My guy does that..." and you are like... "No... THIS is what makes my man amazing..."? Well, Cosmo (Yes, it's like a female bible) did a survey and found out what really makes a man good in bed. Here are what some women said.

1. "HE FOCUSES ON YOU"
If a man worries only about himself, you can be sure that the sex is not going to be very good for you. So a man who takes the time to focus on you will make sex amazing. Have you ever had a REALLY hot guy that was HORRIBLE in bed because he was so focused on himself that you barely had any pleasure? Yeah... so guys... pay a little attention and you will rock our world!

2. "HE PAYS ATTENTION"
According to a Cosmo reader, a man who can follow feedback, such as "faster, slower, softer, harder, and so on" will get an orgasm out of a girl. I'm not one to command. Moans and "Oh yes!" can pretty much tell him how he's doing, in my opinion.

3. "HE MAKES YOU FEEL SPECIAL... IN A SEXY WAY"
Cosmo readers basically said that a man who can make you feel like the only woman in the world that can make him feel that way... makes you feel like a million bucks. The sex is that much better if he makes you feel special. You don't want to think about someone else possibly doing a better job.

4. "HE'S IN FOR THE WHOLE EXPERIENCE"
It's not just about having sex... or "two body parts coming together". It's about the whole experience. It's about connecting. Sex where there is a connection between the people (even outside the sack) is so much more pleasurable and fulfilling. The two of you should make it a moment in time that is just between the two of you. A moment where everything else falls away.

5. "HE'S GOT THE GOODS"
Bad kissing? Unable to move his hips properly? All that spoils it. It doesn't matter what kind of personal connection you may have. In my experience, great lips, a decent package, and moves... that about does it.

6. "HE'S KINDA KINKY"
I agree with this. One of my favorite things is when he comes out of no where and surprises you with something. A smack on the ass. A naughty word muttered in your ear. Nibbling. It's all good in my opinion. It doesn't have to be all the time, but an occasional moment spices things up and keeps it interesting.

7. "HE UNDERSTANDS MY BODY"
Ok... I have had experiences where it is clear that the man had NO idea what he was doing. And then I've had the most... amazing sex. It's as if during the act... he knows my body more than me. Things where he does something and you are kind of like... whoa... I didn't know that would happen! So yes... a man who understands what he is doing and understands how your body reacts is definitely a keeper!

8. "HE CAN TAKE FEEDBACK LIKE A CHAMP"
A Cosmo reader says that the guy should be open to suggestions and taking instruction if the girl things it should be done slightly different. No barking orders... again that is a turn off. But simply advising him of things or leading him to what is good... I agree with.

9. "HE STAYS IN THE MOMENT"
Nobody wants a man who reaches for his phone mid thrust because it goes off. If the phone makes a noise... I don't want him to even pretend like he heard it. Feelings should be too heightened to make reaching for the phone a thought in your mind. He needs to stay with you. Concentrate on your body and his.

10. "HE KEEPS DISTRACTIONS TO A MINIMUM"
This goes with #9. Stay in the moment. If something is distracting, eliminate it. Simple as that. Be there.

And there you have it... this is what women want and what makes them think their man is good in bed.

Source: Cosmo

Male Sex Cravings: What Are They?

Ok... maybe the heading is a bit weird sounding. But this is what I'm talking about.

Cosmo put up an article on their site called "10 Sex Cravings ALL Guys Have".

Now I want to know if it's true. But of course, first I am going to go through and comment on all of them. Because that is what makes this fun. And everyone needs a bit of fun in their lives.

1. "HE WANTS A GIRL WHO CAN TURN HERSELF ON"
Cosmo states that men like a girl that can "rev herself up" instead of always relying on a man to arouse her. And apparently... "A number of women still believe that it's solely a man's job to arouse them." Now, I can understand this. Turning yourself on. Touching yourself even. I do, however, disagree with the fact that their sex expert they asked said it is ok to think about another sexual partner from your past to turn yourself on... and that you should simply not tell your boyfriend that. So basically... you're telling me to think of my ex while I'm in the sack with my current boy toy? No thank you. That is just ASKING for trouble. And it's extremely rude. If you can't get turned on by thinking of your current partner, then maybe you have more of a problem than getting turned on.

2. "HE WANTS SEX TO BE FUN"
Uh... yes! Because who wants boring sex. Laugh. Make noises. Whatever. It shouldn't be THAT serious!

3. "HE WANTS YOU TO DROP HINTS"
Basically men want to know what feels good for you and what they should do more of. But they don't want you "barking orders". I thought this was an obvious. And if you are too shy to tell him what you want... moan or something when it feels really good and he'll do it again!

4. "HE WANTS TO WATCH"
Men are visual... is basically what this is saying. They want to watch what is happening. They want to see themselves disappear into your... nether regions. AND... apparently leaving a little to the imagination is a good thing. They like when you leave a few articles of clothing on. Is this true guys? Share your feedback with me!

5. "HE WANTS YOU TO BE NAUGHTY"
At first I was like... WHAT? But after reading their description... what they mean is that they don't always want the good girl next door. Show him how much you want him. Drop hints. Do little things in public that make him know you want him. Squeeze his thigh. And then when you are in bed and you are about to finish, Cosmo says to "Squeeze his butt or nip at his shoulder". Apparently that's naughty. Who knew...

6. "HE WANTS A 'WOW, WHAT WAS THAT?' EXPERIENCE"
Cosmo says that he wants to remember what just happened. He wants it to be something that he is craving more of after the fact. Do a little trick of your own and have his head spinning. I would hope I don't have any problem with this, but who knows. Find out what you are good at and use it to your advantage. Make him want more!

7. "HE WANTS TO MIX THINGS UP"
Guys get bored easily. We all know that by the look on their face when we start to babble about things he could care less about. Change it up a bit. If you are always doing missionary, change it up... add a little different move position, speed, intensity. My opinion: Things like that make repetitiveness go away. If you are always doing it hard and fast, slow it down a bit. You will never know what position works best for you if you don't try different things.

8. "HE WANTS NOOKY OUT OF NOWHERE"
Cosmo says that when you surprise guys with sex, they are very happy campers. I say... yes. It doesn't even have to be sex. Give them an occasional blow job out of no where. Expect nothing in return. If you only have 30 minutes until you have to leave to be somewhere, have a quicky. Be Spontaneous. Not only will guys like it, but you will too. It gives thrills. Sometimes the best times are when you might get caught or overheard.

9. "HE WANTS TO TAKE YOU"
This one I am not so sure about. I have some guys that want a girl to tell him "harder" or "Faster" or "More!".... which is basically a "Come and get it any way you want" gesture. But I have some guys I know that say NO! They don't need you telling them to go harder. Sometimes concentration for them is key. What do you guys think? Opinions?

10. HE WANTS TO DO NOTHING SOMETIMES"
I can agree with this. It kind of goes with the "Nooky out of Nowhere" category. Sometimes just springing a really good blow job on a guy can mean the difference between an OK day and a FABULOUS day. Put him in a good mood. Plus, they get this look about them where they glance at you occasionally as if they are in awe of you. That's always a good feeling. Sometimes the guy wants to just lay down and let you do all the work. That's fine by me. I find it pleasurable just to watch the man get off.

So yeah....That's what Cosmo says and those are my thoughts. What are your thoughts? Do you agree with all these? Guys let me know by tweeting me at @KristinAODradio or @RealSexTalkBTR. Talk soon!

SOURCE: COSMO

How to Love Life

I have noticed more and more lately that I hear people (and I am guilty of this too) talk about the What Ifs of the future. What if I do this and this happens. What if I try this and I fail. What if I fall in love and my heart gets broken.

My response... What if? What is going to happen if you try something new and you hate it? You've learned something about yourself. What if you make a change in your life and you fail? You get up and try again. Make changes and try different things until it does work. What if you fall in love and that person breaks your heart? It's going to happen at some point. Everyone has pain in their life. Everyone suffers heart break at some point.

From someone who has been there... it sucks. I know this. You know this. Hence why you are trying to avoid it. For me, though, all those heart breaks, failures, and attempts were worth it. They teach you things. They teach you things about yourself and what you expect and will take. They teach what you can handle. They teach you about other people and what types of people you want to surround yourself with and which you do not.

You're going to be able to recover. Try things. Don't worry about "What if this relationship fails?" Take charge and TRY! Because thing about it. What if you don't fail? What if that relationship is THE relationship? What if that person is THE person? What if you find something you are amazing at? Meet someone new? Those are memories. I know that not all my friendships, relationships, and attempts and different things in life have gone accordingly to plan. But I appreciate every last one of those experiences. They are memories I can not replace. They are amazing times with amazing people. Don't regret those moments you didn't try!

I enjoy experiences even if I don't expect them to last. You may NEVER get to have that moment again. Grasp it. Embrace it. If you are happy, who cares if it could be heartache later. You are happy now. Don't spoil anything with a "What if..." moment. That What If will come back to bite you.

And regrets are not good. That experience you let pass because you were worried what COULD happen. I've had that event I didn't attend, but I wished I would. That guy I should have admitted my feelings for. Things might be different now had those feelings been admitted all those years ago. But you have to live with those things. So don't let those happen. Embrace life. Love every experience, good and bad. Because even though things may hurt... that pain fades and something amazing comes along.

Love life!

Random Thoughts

So I've decided that someday I'd like to get married. Have another baby. Whatever. You know how it goes. The normal stages of life. I'm already 27.

Well, it has occurred to me that in today's society the only way this seems like it's going to happen is to fit in to what society says is correct. Which means skinny. Cuz I've been single for quite some time and nobody seems to want me the way I am. Blah blah!

So, I guess it's time I crack down on myself. I've already stopped drinking soda. Almost 4 weeks now. Next is all the sweets. that is gonna be hard, but gotta do it.

This isn't just about meeting someone. This is also about getting healthier. I want to be. I don't think I have to be "skinny" to do that, but whatever.

Second random thought of the day... it's tax season. That excites me. Lots planned for 2013 and hopefully this is gonna be a good one.

What are your plans for 2013?

My Year

How was 2012 for you? Mine was mediocre with some really great parts, but some really bad parts. Let's start with the bad and get it out of the way.

Overpowering bills. Broken cars. Lost friendships. Arguements with friends. Slight rise in self-consciousness. And the sorts. Those things have brought me down and made me question things in life and the way I was handling things. 

Now.... the good.
1. My daughter is obviously the number one person and happiness in my life. Just a giggle from her can turn my entire day around. She's too cute for her own good. And so much like me it is scary. Terrifying really when I think of her growing up. Help the world. She's gonna take over.

2. New friends. People I just met this year and grew friendships with. Co-workers, Random people. All of them. I'm grateful.

3. Old friends. I have my small group of friends that I love to death. This year I had a friend from the past step in and our friendship got really strong. I am beyond grateful for this person (they know who they are). From three hour phone conversations, to helping me when I was hurt, to talking me down when I was sad... they were always there. If nothing else in 2012 makes me think good thoughts, every single moment I spent with this person is definitely top of my list. I had the best birthday I have in a LONG time. I've learned to relax a lot more and not be so stressed out. I've learned to roll with the punches. I've just learned to be a better me. And it's in large part because of this friend. So you... I know you'll read this (I hope)... Thank you. From the bottom of my heart.

4. 2013 looks great. That has been what has pushed me through 2012 aside from the things above. I am looking forward to 2013 and I plan to take full advantage and make it my year. I'm going to put myself in a better place financially. I've been working on my health (almost three weeks soda free!), getting my sugar under control, working with Vicky to expand and grow AOD. It's gonna be a good one. I can feel it. It's the light at the end of this dark tunnel. I can taste the fresh air already.

So a great year! I learned of some great music this year. Ed Sheeran (Thank you Megs), Matisyahu (Thank you Shawn), and many many more. I hope 2013 is as great as I suspect. You always have to expect some downs... but I am hoping for a lot more ups!

So here is to 2013! Let's do this!

What Men Should Never Say To A Woman

I recently read this article on ChaCha about what you should never say to women... and I think it's funny. So I'm going to break it down and add my opinions on the list.

1. "Don't tell a woman that she can't drive, or that women in general are bad drivers."
Agreed. You look sexist, first of all. Second of all... just because she doesn't drive how YOU want her to, doesn't mean she can't drive. Maybe you make her nervous? Now, if she has wrecked numerous cars or been in one too many fender benders, then yes, maybe she is a bad driver. But if you simply think she drives too fast, or doesn't slow down enough in a curve, or take a route you don't approve of (You know who you are) doesn't mean she is a bad driver. She's just different than you.

2. "Have You Gained Weight?"
It says "Never even imply that a woman is fat. Don't do it, under any circumstances! Not even if:

a. She's bone thin.
b. It's a joke.
c. She really is fat.
d. She just called you fat.

I agree with this as well. Not because I think it's just rude (which it is... whether you are a boy or a girl) but because this does a number on a woman's psyche. Those few words can make a woman enter a downward spiral of binging, throwing up, starving herself, hurting herself, and ruins that confidence you love about them. Men like confident women. Whether they are fat, skinny, pretty, ugly, etc. If you are confident in yourself, it is a good quality that men like (or so I hear).

Plus it's rude. And it would make you an asshole.

3. "I've Dated a Lot of Women."
This can actually go both ways. No woman wants to hear about all the women you have dated, slept with, etc. They don't want to be compared to her. Imagine her feelings when you are like... "Oh yeah this one time my ex did this... God that was the best sex ever." Uh hello! You basically just told your girl that she was mediocre in the sack. Talk about rude. The article states that you should never say something like "Don't worry. I've been with bigger women than you." First of all... HAHAHAHAHAHA! I would laugh in your face. That would be the end of ANY activity we had going on. Second of all, that is like combining 2 & 3 together. Breaking TWO rules in one. And again... it makes you an asshole.

4. "You're Just Like Your Mother."
This may be good SOMETIMES. But other times girls just don't want to hear this. Are you attracted to their mother? Do you want to be with them instead? That is the thought going through her head. OR... if it's a bad quality, then they start picking apart the relationship and what they do and how much it may or may not annoy you. You are just asking for trouble.

5. "You're Just Like My Mother."
Again... don't do this. Do you want to date your mom? No. So don't give her the idea that you are attracted to her because she is like your mother. It's a bit creepy!

6. "She's So Hot."
See, this doesn't bother me that much. We are creatures of passion. We notice things. Like how people look. Girls say "oh he's so hot!" and guys do it too. We are BOTH guilty of this. Maybe if you do it ALL the time, then that could be cut down on a bit. Or if you say things like "I wish you looked like her." Yeah... no. Doing it too much can make a girl insecure and jealous (just like the article says), but it doesn't mean you can't comment ever. We all do it. It's natural.

7. "How Old Are You?"
I don't see the big deal. Maybe I'm not quite to the stage where I'm freaked out by my age, but this doesn't seem like a big deal. The article says if you DO bring it up, guess at least 10 years younger than she probably is. But this can still get you in trouble because she may think you are just being a smartass. Unless you think she's underage... don't ask. And if you think she might be... maybe you should be looking for someone older.

8. "Make Me a Sandwich."
This is hilarious. I have a male friend (Who shall remain nameless) who says that this is his first feeling after sex. They get hungry. Now I do not think women should wait on men all the time, but I think that there are certain ways to ask for this. Don't demand it. Or tell her to do it (the article says this.) Ask her. A simple, "hey babe, can you make me a sandwich?" might get you a long way.

9. "Call Her the Wrong Name."
Yeah... I have nothing to say but... RUN!

10. "Do You Want a Picture of My Junk?"
The article is actually talking about prior to the first date or when you are brand new in a relationship. I agree. You look like an epic creeper and I will run for the hills. That is all.

So yeah... maybe I'll find a list of things women shouldn't say to men and comment on those later!