Did you ever notice that all your girlfriends always talk about "My guy does this...." or "My guy does that..." and you are like... "No... THIS is what makes my man amazing..."? Well, Cosmo (Yes, it's like a female bible) did a survey and found out what really makes a man good in bed. Here are what some women said.
1. "HE FOCUSES ON YOU"
If a man worries only about himself, you can be sure that the sex is not going to be very good for you. So a man who takes the time to focus on you will make sex amazing. Have you ever had a REALLY hot guy that was HORRIBLE in bed because he was so focused on himself that you barely had any pleasure? Yeah... so guys... pay a little attention and you will rock our world!
2. "HE PAYS ATTENTION"
According to a Cosmo reader, a man who can follow feedback, such as "faster, slower, softer, harder, and so on" will get an orgasm out of a girl. I'm not one to command. Moans and "Oh yes!" can pretty much tell him how he's doing, in my opinion.
3. "HE MAKES YOU FEEL SPECIAL... IN A SEXY WAY"
Cosmo readers basically said that a man who can make you feel like the only woman in the world that can make him feel that way... makes you feel like a million bucks. The sex is that much better if he makes you feel special. You don't want to think about someone else possibly doing a better job.
4. "HE'S IN FOR THE WHOLE EXPERIENCE"
It's not just about having sex... or "two body parts coming together". It's about the whole experience. It's about connecting. Sex where there is a connection between the people (even outside the sack) is so much more pleasurable and fulfilling. The two of you should make it a moment in time that is just between the two of you. A moment where everything else falls away.
5. "HE'S GOT THE GOODS"
Bad kissing? Unable to move his hips properly? All that spoils it. It doesn't matter what kind of personal connection you may have. In my experience, great lips, a decent package, and moves... that about does it.
6. "HE'S KINDA KINKY"
I agree with this. One of my favorite things is when he comes out of no where and surprises you with something. A smack on the ass. A naughty word muttered in your ear. Nibbling. It's all good in my opinion. It doesn't have to be all the time, but an occasional moment spices things up and keeps it interesting.
7. "HE UNDERSTANDS MY BODY"
Ok... I have had experiences where it is clear that the man had NO idea what he was doing. And then I've had the most... amazing sex. It's as if during the act... he knows my body more than me. Things where he does something and you are kind of like... whoa... I didn't know that would happen! So yes... a man who understands what he is doing and understands how your body reacts is definitely a keeper!
8. "HE CAN TAKE FEEDBACK LIKE A CHAMP"
A Cosmo reader says that the guy should be open to suggestions and taking instruction if the girl things it should be done slightly different. No barking orders... again that is a turn off. But simply advising him of things or leading him to what is good... I agree with.
9. "HE STAYS IN THE MOMENT"
Nobody wants a man who reaches for his phone mid thrust because it goes off. If the phone makes a noise... I don't want him to even pretend like he heard it. Feelings should be too heightened to make reaching for the phone a thought in your mind. He needs to stay with you. Concentrate on your body and his.
10. "HE KEEPS DISTRACTIONS TO A MINIMUM"
This goes with #9. Stay in the moment. If something is distracting, eliminate it. Simple as that. Be there.
And there you have it... this is what women want and what makes them think their man is good in bed.
Source: Cosmo
Tuesday, February 26, 2013
Male Sex Cravings: What Are They?
Ok... maybe the heading is a bit weird sounding. But this is what I'm talking about.
Cosmo put up an article on their site called "10 Sex Cravings ALL Guys Have".
Now I want to know if it's true. But of course, first I am going to go through and comment on all of them. Because that is what makes this fun. And everyone needs a bit of fun in their lives.
1. "HE WANTS A GIRL WHO CAN TURN HERSELF ON"
Cosmo states that men like a girl that can "rev herself up" instead of always relying on a man to arouse her. And apparently... "A number of women still believe that it's solely a man's job to arouse them." Now, I can understand this. Turning yourself on. Touching yourself even. I do, however, disagree with the fact that their sex expert they asked said it is ok to think about another sexual partner from your past to turn yourself on... and that you should simply not tell your boyfriend that. So basically... you're telling me to think of my ex while I'm in the sack with my current boy toy? No thank you. That is just ASKING for trouble. And it's extremely rude. If you can't get turned on by thinking of your current partner, then maybe you have more of a problem than getting turned on.
2. "HE WANTS SEX TO BE FUN"
Uh... yes! Because who wants boring sex. Laugh. Make noises. Whatever. It shouldn't be THAT serious!
3. "HE WANTS YOU TO DROP HINTS"
Basically men want to know what feels good for you and what they should do more of. But they don't want you "barking orders". I thought this was an obvious. And if you are too shy to tell him what you want... moan or something when it feels really good and he'll do it again!
4. "HE WANTS TO WATCH"
Men are visual... is basically what this is saying. They want to watch what is happening. They want to see themselves disappear into your... nether regions. AND... apparently leaving a little to the imagination is a good thing. They like when you leave a few articles of clothing on. Is this true guys? Share your feedback with me!
5. "HE WANTS YOU TO BE NAUGHTY"
At first I was like... WHAT? But after reading their description... what they mean is that they don't always want the good girl next door. Show him how much you want him. Drop hints. Do little things in public that make him know you want him. Squeeze his thigh. And then when you are in bed and you are about to finish, Cosmo says to "Squeeze his butt or nip at his shoulder". Apparently that's naughty. Who knew...
6. "HE WANTS A 'WOW, WHAT WAS THAT?' EXPERIENCE"
Cosmo says that he wants to remember what just happened. He wants it to be something that he is craving more of after the fact. Do a little trick of your own and have his head spinning. I would hope I don't have any problem with this, but who knows. Find out what you are good at and use it to your advantage. Make him want more!
7. "HE WANTS TO MIX THINGS UP"
Guys get bored easily. We all know that by the look on their face when we start to babble about things he could care less about. Change it up a bit. If you are always doing missionary, change it up... add a little different move position, speed, intensity. My opinion: Things like that make repetitiveness go away. If you are always doing it hard and fast, slow it down a bit. You will never know what position works best for you if you don't try different things.
8. "HE WANTS NOOKY OUT OF NOWHERE"
Cosmo says that when you surprise guys with sex, they are very happy campers. I say... yes. It doesn't even have to be sex. Give them an occasional blow job out of no where. Expect nothing in return. If you only have 30 minutes until you have to leave to be somewhere, have a quicky. Be Spontaneous. Not only will guys like it, but you will too. It gives thrills. Sometimes the best times are when you might get caught or overheard.
9. "HE WANTS TO TAKE YOU"
This one I am not so sure about. I have some guys that want a girl to tell him "harder" or "Faster" or "More!".... which is basically a "Come and get it any way you want" gesture. But I have some guys I know that say NO! They don't need you telling them to go harder. Sometimes concentration for them is key. What do you guys think? Opinions?
10. HE WANTS TO DO NOTHING SOMETIMES"
I can agree with this. It kind of goes with the "Nooky out of Nowhere" category. Sometimes just springing a really good blow job on a guy can mean the difference between an OK day and a FABULOUS day. Put him in a good mood. Plus, they get this look about them where they glance at you occasionally as if they are in awe of you. That's always a good feeling. Sometimes the guy wants to just lay down and let you do all the work. That's fine by me. I find it pleasurable just to watch the man get off.
So yeah....That's what Cosmo says and those are my thoughts. What are your thoughts? Do you agree with all these? Guys let me know by tweeting me at @KristinAODradio or @RealSexTalkBTR. Talk soon!
SOURCE: COSMO
Cosmo put up an article on their site called "10 Sex Cravings ALL Guys Have".
Now I want to know if it's true. But of course, first I am going to go through and comment on all of them. Because that is what makes this fun. And everyone needs a bit of fun in their lives.
1. "HE WANTS A GIRL WHO CAN TURN HERSELF ON"
Cosmo states that men like a girl that can "rev herself up" instead of always relying on a man to arouse her. And apparently... "A number of women still believe that it's solely a man's job to arouse them." Now, I can understand this. Turning yourself on. Touching yourself even. I do, however, disagree with the fact that their sex expert they asked said it is ok to think about another sexual partner from your past to turn yourself on... and that you should simply not tell your boyfriend that. So basically... you're telling me to think of my ex while I'm in the sack with my current boy toy? No thank you. That is just ASKING for trouble. And it's extremely rude. If you can't get turned on by thinking of your current partner, then maybe you have more of a problem than getting turned on.
2. "HE WANTS SEX TO BE FUN"
Uh... yes! Because who wants boring sex. Laugh. Make noises. Whatever. It shouldn't be THAT serious!
3. "HE WANTS YOU TO DROP HINTS"
Basically men want to know what feels good for you and what they should do more of. But they don't want you "barking orders". I thought this was an obvious. And if you are too shy to tell him what you want... moan or something when it feels really good and he'll do it again!
4. "HE WANTS TO WATCH"
Men are visual... is basically what this is saying. They want to watch what is happening. They want to see themselves disappear into your... nether regions. AND... apparently leaving a little to the imagination is a good thing. They like when you leave a few articles of clothing on. Is this true guys? Share your feedback with me!
5. "HE WANTS YOU TO BE NAUGHTY"
At first I was like... WHAT? But after reading their description... what they mean is that they don't always want the good girl next door. Show him how much you want him. Drop hints. Do little things in public that make him know you want him. Squeeze his thigh. And then when you are in bed and you are about to finish, Cosmo says to "Squeeze his butt or nip at his shoulder". Apparently that's naughty. Who knew...
6. "HE WANTS A 'WOW, WHAT WAS THAT?' EXPERIENCE"
Cosmo says that he wants to remember what just happened. He wants it to be something that he is craving more of after the fact. Do a little trick of your own and have his head spinning. I would hope I don't have any problem with this, but who knows. Find out what you are good at and use it to your advantage. Make him want more!
7. "HE WANTS TO MIX THINGS UP"
Guys get bored easily. We all know that by the look on their face when we start to babble about things he could care less about. Change it up a bit. If you are always doing missionary, change it up... add a little different move position, speed, intensity. My opinion: Things like that make repetitiveness go away. If you are always doing it hard and fast, slow it down a bit. You will never know what position works best for you if you don't try different things.
8. "HE WANTS NOOKY OUT OF NOWHERE"
Cosmo says that when you surprise guys with sex, they are very happy campers. I say... yes. It doesn't even have to be sex. Give them an occasional blow job out of no where. Expect nothing in return. If you only have 30 minutes until you have to leave to be somewhere, have a quicky. Be Spontaneous. Not only will guys like it, but you will too. It gives thrills. Sometimes the best times are when you might get caught or overheard.
9. "HE WANTS TO TAKE YOU"
This one I am not so sure about. I have some guys that want a girl to tell him "harder" or "Faster" or "More!".... which is basically a "Come and get it any way you want" gesture. But I have some guys I know that say NO! They don't need you telling them to go harder. Sometimes concentration for them is key. What do you guys think? Opinions?
10. HE WANTS TO DO NOTHING SOMETIMES"
I can agree with this. It kind of goes with the "Nooky out of Nowhere" category. Sometimes just springing a really good blow job on a guy can mean the difference between an OK day and a FABULOUS day. Put him in a good mood. Plus, they get this look about them where they glance at you occasionally as if they are in awe of you. That's always a good feeling. Sometimes the guy wants to just lay down and let you do all the work. That's fine by me. I find it pleasurable just to watch the man get off.
So yeah....That's what Cosmo says and those are my thoughts. What are your thoughts? Do you agree with all these? Guys let me know by tweeting me at @KristinAODradio or @RealSexTalkBTR. Talk soon!
SOURCE: COSMO
How to Love Life
I have noticed more and more lately that I hear people (and I am guilty of this too) talk about the What Ifs of the future. What if I do this and this happens. What if I try this and I fail. What if I fall in love and my heart gets broken.
My response... What if? What is going to happen if you try something new and you hate it? You've learned something about yourself. What if you make a change in your life and you fail? You get up and try again. Make changes and try different things until it does work. What if you fall in love and that person breaks your heart? It's going to happen at some point. Everyone has pain in their life. Everyone suffers heart break at some point.
From someone who has been there... it sucks. I know this. You know this. Hence why you are trying to avoid it. For me, though, all those heart breaks, failures, and attempts were worth it. They teach you things. They teach you things about yourself and what you expect and will take. They teach what you can handle. They teach you about other people and what types of people you want to surround yourself with and which you do not.
You're going to be able to recover. Try things. Don't worry about "What if this relationship fails?" Take charge and TRY! Because thing about it. What if you don't fail? What if that relationship is THE relationship? What if that person is THE person? What if you find something you are amazing at? Meet someone new? Those are memories. I know that not all my friendships, relationships, and attempts and different things in life have gone accordingly to plan. But I appreciate every last one of those experiences. They are memories I can not replace. They are amazing times with amazing people. Don't regret those moments you didn't try!
I enjoy experiences even if I don't expect them to last. You may NEVER get to have that moment again. Grasp it. Embrace it. If you are happy, who cares if it could be heartache later. You are happy now. Don't spoil anything with a "What if..." moment. That What If will come back to bite you.
And regrets are not good. That experience you let pass because you were worried what COULD happen. I've had that event I didn't attend, but I wished I would. That guy I should have admitted my feelings for. Things might be different now had those feelings been admitted all those years ago. But you have to live with those things. So don't let those happen. Embrace life. Love every experience, good and bad. Because even though things may hurt... that pain fades and something amazing comes along.
Love life!
My response... What if? What is going to happen if you try something new and you hate it? You've learned something about yourself. What if you make a change in your life and you fail? You get up and try again. Make changes and try different things until it does work. What if you fall in love and that person breaks your heart? It's going to happen at some point. Everyone has pain in their life. Everyone suffers heart break at some point.
From someone who has been there... it sucks. I know this. You know this. Hence why you are trying to avoid it. For me, though, all those heart breaks, failures, and attempts were worth it. They teach you things. They teach you things about yourself and what you expect and will take. They teach what you can handle. They teach you about other people and what types of people you want to surround yourself with and which you do not.
You're going to be able to recover. Try things. Don't worry about "What if this relationship fails?" Take charge and TRY! Because thing about it. What if you don't fail? What if that relationship is THE relationship? What if that person is THE person? What if you find something you are amazing at? Meet someone new? Those are memories. I know that not all my friendships, relationships, and attempts and different things in life have gone accordingly to plan. But I appreciate every last one of those experiences. They are memories I can not replace. They are amazing times with amazing people. Don't regret those moments you didn't try!
I enjoy experiences even if I don't expect them to last. You may NEVER get to have that moment again. Grasp it. Embrace it. If you are happy, who cares if it could be heartache later. You are happy now. Don't spoil anything with a "What if..." moment. That What If will come back to bite you.
And regrets are not good. That experience you let pass because you were worried what COULD happen. I've had that event I didn't attend, but I wished I would. That guy I should have admitted my feelings for. Things might be different now had those feelings been admitted all those years ago. But you have to live with those things. So don't let those happen. Embrace life. Love every experience, good and bad. Because even though things may hurt... that pain fades and something amazing comes along.
Love life!
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