Did you ever notice that all your girlfriends always talk about "My guy does this...." or "My guy does that..." and you are like... "No... THIS is what makes my man amazing..."? Well, Cosmo (Yes, it's like a female bible) did a survey and found out what really makes a man good in bed. Here are what some women said.
1. "HE FOCUSES ON YOU"
If a man worries only about himself, you can be sure that the sex is not going to be very good for you. So a man who takes the time to focus on you will make sex amazing. Have you ever had a REALLY hot guy that was HORRIBLE in bed because he was so focused on himself that you barely had any pleasure? Yeah... so guys... pay a little attention and you will rock our world!
2. "HE PAYS ATTENTION"
According to a Cosmo reader, a man who can follow feedback, such as "faster, slower, softer, harder, and so on" will get an orgasm out of a girl. I'm not one to command. Moans and "Oh yes!" can pretty much tell him how he's doing, in my opinion.
3. "HE MAKES YOU FEEL SPECIAL... IN A SEXY WAY"
Cosmo readers basically said that a man who can make you feel like the only woman in the world that can make him feel that way... makes you feel like a million bucks. The sex is that much better if he makes you feel special. You don't want to think about someone else possibly doing a better job.
4. "HE'S IN FOR THE WHOLE EXPERIENCE"
It's not just about having sex... or "two body parts coming together". It's about the whole experience. It's about connecting. Sex where there is a connection between the people (even outside the sack) is so much more pleasurable and fulfilling. The two of you should make it a moment in time that is just between the two of you. A moment where everything else falls away.
5. "HE'S GOT THE GOODS"
Bad kissing? Unable to move his hips properly? All that spoils it. It doesn't matter what kind of personal connection you may have. In my experience, great lips, a decent package, and moves... that about does it.
6. "HE'S KINDA KINKY"
I agree with this. One of my favorite things is when he comes out of no where and surprises you with something. A smack on the ass. A naughty word muttered in your ear. Nibbling. It's all good in my opinion. It doesn't have to be all the time, but an occasional moment spices things up and keeps it interesting.
7. "HE UNDERSTANDS MY BODY"
Ok... I have had experiences where it is clear that the man had NO idea what he was doing. And then I've had the most... amazing sex. It's as if during the act... he knows my body more than me. Things where he does something and you are kind of like... whoa... I didn't know that would happen! So yes... a man who understands what he is doing and understands how your body reacts is definitely a keeper!
8. "HE CAN TAKE FEEDBACK LIKE A CHAMP"
A Cosmo reader says that the guy should be open to suggestions and taking instruction if the girl things it should be done slightly different. No barking orders... again that is a turn off. But simply advising him of things or leading him to what is good... I agree with.
9. "HE STAYS IN THE MOMENT"
Nobody wants a man who reaches for his phone mid thrust because it goes off. If the phone makes a noise... I don't want him to even pretend like he heard it. Feelings should be too heightened to make reaching for the phone a thought in your mind. He needs to stay with you. Concentrate on your body and his.
10. "HE KEEPS DISTRACTIONS TO A MINIMUM"
This goes with #9. Stay in the moment. If something is distracting, eliminate it. Simple as that. Be there.
And there you have it... this is what women want and what makes them think their man is good in bed.
Source: Cosmo
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Tuesday, February 26, 2013
Male Sex Cravings: What Are They?
Ok... maybe the heading is a bit weird sounding. But this is what I'm talking about.
Cosmo put up an article on their site called "10 Sex Cravings ALL Guys Have".
Now I want to know if it's true. But of course, first I am going to go through and comment on all of them. Because that is what makes this fun. And everyone needs a bit of fun in their lives.
1. "HE WANTS A GIRL WHO CAN TURN HERSELF ON"
Cosmo states that men like a girl that can "rev herself up" instead of always relying on a man to arouse her. And apparently... "A number of women still believe that it's solely a man's job to arouse them." Now, I can understand this. Turning yourself on. Touching yourself even. I do, however, disagree with the fact that their sex expert they asked said it is ok to think about another sexual partner from your past to turn yourself on... and that you should simply not tell your boyfriend that. So basically... you're telling me to think of my ex while I'm in the sack with my current boy toy? No thank you. That is just ASKING for trouble. And it's extremely rude. If you can't get turned on by thinking of your current partner, then maybe you have more of a problem than getting turned on.
2. "HE WANTS SEX TO BE FUN"
Uh... yes! Because who wants boring sex. Laugh. Make noises. Whatever. It shouldn't be THAT serious!
3. "HE WANTS YOU TO DROP HINTS"
Basically men want to know what feels good for you and what they should do more of. But they don't want you "barking orders". I thought this was an obvious. And if you are too shy to tell him what you want... moan or something when it feels really good and he'll do it again!
4. "HE WANTS TO WATCH"
Men are visual... is basically what this is saying. They want to watch what is happening. They want to see themselves disappear into your... nether regions. AND... apparently leaving a little to the imagination is a good thing. They like when you leave a few articles of clothing on. Is this true guys? Share your feedback with me!
5. "HE WANTS YOU TO BE NAUGHTY"
At first I was like... WHAT? But after reading their description... what they mean is that they don't always want the good girl next door. Show him how much you want him. Drop hints. Do little things in public that make him know you want him. Squeeze his thigh. And then when you are in bed and you are about to finish, Cosmo says to "Squeeze his butt or nip at his shoulder". Apparently that's naughty. Who knew...
6. "HE WANTS A 'WOW, WHAT WAS THAT?' EXPERIENCE"
Cosmo says that he wants to remember what just happened. He wants it to be something that he is craving more of after the fact. Do a little trick of your own and have his head spinning. I would hope I don't have any problem with this, but who knows. Find out what you are good at and use it to your advantage. Make him want more!
7. "HE WANTS TO MIX THINGS UP"
Guys get bored easily. We all know that by the look on their face when we start to babble about things he could care less about. Change it up a bit. If you are always doing missionary, change it up... add a little different move position, speed, intensity. My opinion: Things like that make repetitiveness go away. If you are always doing it hard and fast, slow it down a bit. You will never know what position works best for you if you don't try different things.
8. "HE WANTS NOOKY OUT OF NOWHERE"
Cosmo says that when you surprise guys with sex, they are very happy campers. I say... yes. It doesn't even have to be sex. Give them an occasional blow job out of no where. Expect nothing in return. If you only have 30 minutes until you have to leave to be somewhere, have a quicky. Be Spontaneous. Not only will guys like it, but you will too. It gives thrills. Sometimes the best times are when you might get caught or overheard.
9. "HE WANTS TO TAKE YOU"
This one I am not so sure about. I have some guys that want a girl to tell him "harder" or "Faster" or "More!".... which is basically a "Come and get it any way you want" gesture. But I have some guys I know that say NO! They don't need you telling them to go harder. Sometimes concentration for them is key. What do you guys think? Opinions?
10. HE WANTS TO DO NOTHING SOMETIMES"
I can agree with this. It kind of goes with the "Nooky out of Nowhere" category. Sometimes just springing a really good blow job on a guy can mean the difference between an OK day and a FABULOUS day. Put him in a good mood. Plus, they get this look about them where they glance at you occasionally as if they are in awe of you. That's always a good feeling. Sometimes the guy wants to just lay down and let you do all the work. That's fine by me. I find it pleasurable just to watch the man get off.
So yeah....That's what Cosmo says and those are my thoughts. What are your thoughts? Do you agree with all these? Guys let me know by tweeting me at @KristinAODradio or @RealSexTalkBTR. Talk soon!
SOURCE: COSMO
Cosmo put up an article on their site called "10 Sex Cravings ALL Guys Have".
Now I want to know if it's true. But of course, first I am going to go through and comment on all of them. Because that is what makes this fun. And everyone needs a bit of fun in their lives.
1. "HE WANTS A GIRL WHO CAN TURN HERSELF ON"
Cosmo states that men like a girl that can "rev herself up" instead of always relying on a man to arouse her. And apparently... "A number of women still believe that it's solely a man's job to arouse them." Now, I can understand this. Turning yourself on. Touching yourself even. I do, however, disagree with the fact that their sex expert they asked said it is ok to think about another sexual partner from your past to turn yourself on... and that you should simply not tell your boyfriend that. So basically... you're telling me to think of my ex while I'm in the sack with my current boy toy? No thank you. That is just ASKING for trouble. And it's extremely rude. If you can't get turned on by thinking of your current partner, then maybe you have more of a problem than getting turned on.
2. "HE WANTS SEX TO BE FUN"
Uh... yes! Because who wants boring sex. Laugh. Make noises. Whatever. It shouldn't be THAT serious!
3. "HE WANTS YOU TO DROP HINTS"
Basically men want to know what feels good for you and what they should do more of. But they don't want you "barking orders". I thought this was an obvious. And if you are too shy to tell him what you want... moan or something when it feels really good and he'll do it again!
4. "HE WANTS TO WATCH"
Men are visual... is basically what this is saying. They want to watch what is happening. They want to see themselves disappear into your... nether regions. AND... apparently leaving a little to the imagination is a good thing. They like when you leave a few articles of clothing on. Is this true guys? Share your feedback with me!
5. "HE WANTS YOU TO BE NAUGHTY"
At first I was like... WHAT? But after reading their description... what they mean is that they don't always want the good girl next door. Show him how much you want him. Drop hints. Do little things in public that make him know you want him. Squeeze his thigh. And then when you are in bed and you are about to finish, Cosmo says to "Squeeze his butt or nip at his shoulder". Apparently that's naughty. Who knew...
6. "HE WANTS A 'WOW, WHAT WAS THAT?' EXPERIENCE"
Cosmo says that he wants to remember what just happened. He wants it to be something that he is craving more of after the fact. Do a little trick of your own and have his head spinning. I would hope I don't have any problem with this, but who knows. Find out what you are good at and use it to your advantage. Make him want more!
7. "HE WANTS TO MIX THINGS UP"
Guys get bored easily. We all know that by the look on their face when we start to babble about things he could care less about. Change it up a bit. If you are always doing missionary, change it up... add a little different move position, speed, intensity. My opinion: Things like that make repetitiveness go away. If you are always doing it hard and fast, slow it down a bit. You will never know what position works best for you if you don't try different things.
8. "HE WANTS NOOKY OUT OF NOWHERE"
Cosmo says that when you surprise guys with sex, they are very happy campers. I say... yes. It doesn't even have to be sex. Give them an occasional blow job out of no where. Expect nothing in return. If you only have 30 minutes until you have to leave to be somewhere, have a quicky. Be Spontaneous. Not only will guys like it, but you will too. It gives thrills. Sometimes the best times are when you might get caught or overheard.
9. "HE WANTS TO TAKE YOU"
This one I am not so sure about. I have some guys that want a girl to tell him "harder" or "Faster" or "More!".... which is basically a "Come and get it any way you want" gesture. But I have some guys I know that say NO! They don't need you telling them to go harder. Sometimes concentration for them is key. What do you guys think? Opinions?
10. HE WANTS TO DO NOTHING SOMETIMES"
I can agree with this. It kind of goes with the "Nooky out of Nowhere" category. Sometimes just springing a really good blow job on a guy can mean the difference between an OK day and a FABULOUS day. Put him in a good mood. Plus, they get this look about them where they glance at you occasionally as if they are in awe of you. That's always a good feeling. Sometimes the guy wants to just lay down and let you do all the work. That's fine by me. I find it pleasurable just to watch the man get off.
So yeah....That's what Cosmo says and those are my thoughts. What are your thoughts? Do you agree with all these? Guys let me know by tweeting me at @KristinAODradio or @RealSexTalkBTR. Talk soon!
SOURCE: COSMO
Friday, December 28, 2012
What Men Should Never Say To A Woman
I recently read this article on ChaCha about what you should never say to women... and I think it's funny. So I'm going to break it down and add my opinions on the list.
1. "Don't tell a woman that she can't drive, or that women in general are bad drivers."
Agreed. You look sexist, first of all. Second of all... just because she doesn't drive how YOU want her to, doesn't mean she can't drive. Maybe you make her nervous? Now, if she has wrecked numerous cars or been in one too many fender benders, then yes, maybe she is a bad driver. But if you simply think she drives too fast, or doesn't slow down enough in a curve, or take a route you don't approve of (You know who you are) doesn't mean she is a bad driver. She's just different than you.
2. "Have You Gained Weight?"
It says "Never even imply that a woman is fat. Don't do it, under any circumstances! Not even if:
a. She's bone thin.
b. It's a joke.
c. She really is fat.
d. She just called you fat.
I agree with this as well. Not because I think it's just rude (which it is... whether you are a boy or a girl) but because this does a number on a woman's psyche. Those few words can make a woman enter a downward spiral of binging, throwing up, starving herself, hurting herself, and ruins that confidence you love about them. Men like confident women. Whether they are fat, skinny, pretty, ugly, etc. If you are confident in yourself, it is a good quality that men like (or so I hear).
Plus it's rude. And it would make you an asshole.
3. "I've Dated a Lot of Women."
This can actually go both ways. No woman wants to hear about all the women you have dated, slept with, etc. They don't want to be compared to her. Imagine her feelings when you are like... "Oh yeah this one time my ex did this... God that was the best sex ever." Uh hello! You basically just told your girl that she was mediocre in the sack. Talk about rude. The article states that you should never say something like "Don't worry. I've been with bigger women than you." First of all... HAHAHAHAHAHA! I would laugh in your face. That would be the end of ANY activity we had going on. Second of all, that is like combining 2 & 3 together. Breaking TWO rules in one. And again... it makes you an asshole.
4. "You're Just Like Your Mother."
This may be good SOMETIMES. But other times girls just don't want to hear this. Are you attracted to their mother? Do you want to be with them instead? That is the thought going through her head. OR... if it's a bad quality, then they start picking apart the relationship and what they do and how much it may or may not annoy you. You are just asking for trouble.
5. "You're Just Like My Mother."
Again... don't do this. Do you want to date your mom? No. So don't give her the idea that you are attracted to her because she is like your mother. It's a bit creepy!
6. "She's So Hot."
See, this doesn't bother me that much. We are creatures of passion. We notice things. Like how people look. Girls say "oh he's so hot!" and guys do it too. We are BOTH guilty of this. Maybe if you do it ALL the time, then that could be cut down on a bit. Or if you say things like "I wish you looked like her." Yeah... no. Doing it too much can make a girl insecure and jealous (just like the article says), but it doesn't mean you can't comment ever. We all do it. It's natural.
7. "How Old Are You?"
I don't see the big deal. Maybe I'm not quite to the stage where I'm freaked out by my age, but this doesn't seem like a big deal. The article says if you DO bring it up, guess at least 10 years younger than she probably is. But this can still get you in trouble because she may think you are just being a smartass. Unless you think she's underage... don't ask. And if you think she might be... maybe you should be looking for someone older.
8. "Make Me a Sandwich."
This is hilarious. I have a male friend (Who shall remain nameless) who says that this is his first feeling after sex. They get hungry. Now I do not think women should wait on men all the time, but I think that there are certain ways to ask for this. Don't demand it. Or tell her to do it (the article says this.) Ask her. A simple, "hey babe, can you make me a sandwich?" might get you a long way.
9. "Call Her the Wrong Name."
Yeah... I have nothing to say but... RUN!
10. "Do You Want a Picture of My Junk?"
The article is actually talking about prior to the first date or when you are brand new in a relationship. I agree. You look like an epic creeper and I will run for the hills. That is all.
So yeah... maybe I'll find a list of things women shouldn't say to men and comment on those later!
1. "Don't tell a woman that she can't drive, or that women in general are bad drivers."
Agreed. You look sexist, first of all. Second of all... just because she doesn't drive how YOU want her to, doesn't mean she can't drive. Maybe you make her nervous? Now, if she has wrecked numerous cars or been in one too many fender benders, then yes, maybe she is a bad driver. But if you simply think she drives too fast, or doesn't slow down enough in a curve, or take a route you don't approve of (You know who you are) doesn't mean she is a bad driver. She's just different than you.
2. "Have You Gained Weight?"
It says "Never even imply that a woman is fat. Don't do it, under any circumstances! Not even if:
a. She's bone thin.
b. It's a joke.
c. She really is fat.
d. She just called you fat.
I agree with this as well. Not because I think it's just rude (which it is... whether you are a boy or a girl) but because this does a number on a woman's psyche. Those few words can make a woman enter a downward spiral of binging, throwing up, starving herself, hurting herself, and ruins that confidence you love about them. Men like confident women. Whether they are fat, skinny, pretty, ugly, etc. If you are confident in yourself, it is a good quality that men like (or so I hear).
Plus it's rude. And it would make you an asshole.
3. "I've Dated a Lot of Women."
This can actually go both ways. No woman wants to hear about all the women you have dated, slept with, etc. They don't want to be compared to her. Imagine her feelings when you are like... "Oh yeah this one time my ex did this... God that was the best sex ever." Uh hello! You basically just told your girl that she was mediocre in the sack. Talk about rude. The article states that you should never say something like "Don't worry. I've been with bigger women than you." First of all... HAHAHAHAHAHA! I would laugh in your face. That would be the end of ANY activity we had going on. Second of all, that is like combining 2 & 3 together. Breaking TWO rules in one. And again... it makes you an asshole.
4. "You're Just Like Your Mother."
This may be good SOMETIMES. But other times girls just don't want to hear this. Are you attracted to their mother? Do you want to be with them instead? That is the thought going through her head. OR... if it's a bad quality, then they start picking apart the relationship and what they do and how much it may or may not annoy you. You are just asking for trouble.
5. "You're Just Like My Mother."
Again... don't do this. Do you want to date your mom? No. So don't give her the idea that you are attracted to her because she is like your mother. It's a bit creepy!
6. "She's So Hot."
See, this doesn't bother me that much. We are creatures of passion. We notice things. Like how people look. Girls say "oh he's so hot!" and guys do it too. We are BOTH guilty of this. Maybe if you do it ALL the time, then that could be cut down on a bit. Or if you say things like "I wish you looked like her." Yeah... no. Doing it too much can make a girl insecure and jealous (just like the article says), but it doesn't mean you can't comment ever. We all do it. It's natural.
7. "How Old Are You?"
I don't see the big deal. Maybe I'm not quite to the stage where I'm freaked out by my age, but this doesn't seem like a big deal. The article says if you DO bring it up, guess at least 10 years younger than she probably is. But this can still get you in trouble because she may think you are just being a smartass. Unless you think she's underage... don't ask. And if you think she might be... maybe you should be looking for someone older.
8. "Make Me a Sandwich."
This is hilarious. I have a male friend (Who shall remain nameless) who says that this is his first feeling after sex. They get hungry. Now I do not think women should wait on men all the time, but I think that there are certain ways to ask for this. Don't demand it. Or tell her to do it (the article says this.) Ask her. A simple, "hey babe, can you make me a sandwich?" might get you a long way.
9. "Call Her the Wrong Name."
Yeah... I have nothing to say but... RUN!
10. "Do You Want a Picture of My Junk?"
The article is actually talking about prior to the first date or when you are brand new in a relationship. I agree. You look like an epic creeper and I will run for the hills. That is all.
So yeah... maybe I'll find a list of things women shouldn't say to men and comment on those later!
Thursday, December 20, 2012
Signs Your Man Is Cheating.... (really?)
So I recently came across this article called "10 Signs Your Guy is Cheating". Now... as I looked through some of these "signs" I agree with some and I disagree with others. So I thought I would go ahead and break it down for you.
Oh... and here is the LINK to the original article!
1. You're having less sex.
The article states that less sex is a sign that something is wrong in the sack. I partially agree with this. Yes... sex is extremely important in a relationship. One, it keeps the stress down. Two, being able to change it up in the bedroom every so often keeps the relationship interesting. And there are more points, but I'll stop there. Now I will say that sometimes people are just in a bad place and do not want to have sex. If this trend continues for a few weeks... you likely have a problem. But sometimes it's just a funk. Try changing it up.
2. He's done it before
Ok... now I kind of agree with this. The article points out... once a cheater, always a cheater. I feel that they are more likely to do it again. And besides, as a girl... if I knew my ex had cheated on his last girl, I would never be able to trust him. End of story!
3. He Avoids Certain Places
The article says that if your guy always make an excuse as to why you can't go to one place or another, there is likely a good reason behind it. Now, maybe this is just me, but I'd start asking questions after the third time. Once, ok... you don't want to eat there. Twice... ok, was there a bad experience? Three times... What the hell? This does wave a red flag, but it could be that he simply hates it.
4. He needs space!
According to the article, if he makes it clear from the start that he needs excessive space than he is likely making sure he has plenty of time for his "Shenanigans". Here is my thought. If you are dating someone and you enjoy their company. The relationship is going well... then he shouldn't need to set boundaries. In a relationship, you need to understand that being together all the time is going to be overwhelming. Even if you are married. Everyone needs some space. Men need to have men time. Women need to have girl time. Alone time. Whatever. In my opinion, it's all about finding a balance. But one person shouldn't step in and say "we can only talk ten minutes a day and we can only see each other once a week." If you want to hang out you should. And if one doesn't want to very often and that bothers you... maybe you are with the wrong person. Just something to think about.
5. He's secretive about his phone/internet use.
I agree with the articles explanation of this. Everyone should respect the privacy of the other. No matter what. But if you reach for his phone to use the calculator and he snatches it back and freaks out... most likely there is something on there he doesn't want you to see. I don't think one or the other should go through another's phone/internet usage trying to catch them. That just shows you don't trust them. And if you don't trust them... well then get out of that relationship. Trust and honesty is everything.
6. He Avoids Your Friends
Now... the article states that if he avoids hanging out with your friends at all costs, then he is likely covering his tracks because if he knows your friends then he is more likely to get caught out with another girl. Yes... this COULD be true. Or he just hates your friends. I've seen that too. It may be frustrating but I wouldn't say it means he's cheating.
7. His Grooming Habits Change
HAHA! This makes me laugh. If he goes from being kind of sloppy and scruffy to clean shaven, smelling delicious, and well dressed then you should be worried. This would definitely raise some warning bells in my head. I wouldn't necessarily say that he is cheating, but it would definitely be something to question him with.
8. The Rumor Mill is Buzzing.
Yeah. If you hear people mentioning other women and your man... or rumors that he was at the movies with another female when he told you he was going to bed early... probably a red alert. Check into it. Most definitely. But don't always believe rumors. They could just be jealous women.
9. He's Learned New Tricks!
The article states that if he suddenly starts getting really freaky in the sack on things he has NEVER tried before... he may be learning tricks from other girls. This would make me want to punch him in the throat if this is true. But maybe he is just getting comfortable and has decided it is time to spice it up? I wouldn't say he IS cheating, but it definitely could be a possibility. Have I mentioned he's skeavy? LOL
10. The Physical Signs!
Now these do not lie. If your man smells like another woman. Comes home from "a late night at work" smelling like sex, lipstick on his collar, hickeys on his neck... what the HELL are you doing? Kick his sorry ass to the curb. I don't care if you look like a supermodel or if you are a little less than pretty. You don't deserve that and somebody else WILL appreciate you. Don't sell yourself short.
And THAT is the list of signs your guy (or girl really) are cheating. Some are spot on. Others... I think you could just be paranoid. But whatever!
Oh... and here is the LINK to the original article!
1. You're having less sex.
The article states that less sex is a sign that something is wrong in the sack. I partially agree with this. Yes... sex is extremely important in a relationship. One, it keeps the stress down. Two, being able to change it up in the bedroom every so often keeps the relationship interesting. And there are more points, but I'll stop there. Now I will say that sometimes people are just in a bad place and do not want to have sex. If this trend continues for a few weeks... you likely have a problem. But sometimes it's just a funk. Try changing it up.
2. He's done it before
Ok... now I kind of agree with this. The article points out... once a cheater, always a cheater. I feel that they are more likely to do it again. And besides, as a girl... if I knew my ex had cheated on his last girl, I would never be able to trust him. End of story!
3. He Avoids Certain Places
The article says that if your guy always make an excuse as to why you can't go to one place or another, there is likely a good reason behind it. Now, maybe this is just me, but I'd start asking questions after the third time. Once, ok... you don't want to eat there. Twice... ok, was there a bad experience? Three times... What the hell? This does wave a red flag, but it could be that he simply hates it.
4. He needs space!
According to the article, if he makes it clear from the start that he needs excessive space than he is likely making sure he has plenty of time for his "Shenanigans". Here is my thought. If you are dating someone and you enjoy their company. The relationship is going well... then he shouldn't need to set boundaries. In a relationship, you need to understand that being together all the time is going to be overwhelming. Even if you are married. Everyone needs some space. Men need to have men time. Women need to have girl time. Alone time. Whatever. In my opinion, it's all about finding a balance. But one person shouldn't step in and say "we can only talk ten minutes a day and we can only see each other once a week." If you want to hang out you should. And if one doesn't want to very often and that bothers you... maybe you are with the wrong person. Just something to think about.
5. He's secretive about his phone/internet use.
I agree with the articles explanation of this. Everyone should respect the privacy of the other. No matter what. But if you reach for his phone to use the calculator and he snatches it back and freaks out... most likely there is something on there he doesn't want you to see. I don't think one or the other should go through another's phone/internet usage trying to catch them. That just shows you don't trust them. And if you don't trust them... well then get out of that relationship. Trust and honesty is everything.
6. He Avoids Your Friends
Now... the article states that if he avoids hanging out with your friends at all costs, then he is likely covering his tracks because if he knows your friends then he is more likely to get caught out with another girl. Yes... this COULD be true. Or he just hates your friends. I've seen that too. It may be frustrating but I wouldn't say it means he's cheating.
7. His Grooming Habits Change
HAHA! This makes me laugh. If he goes from being kind of sloppy and scruffy to clean shaven, smelling delicious, and well dressed then you should be worried. This would definitely raise some warning bells in my head. I wouldn't necessarily say that he is cheating, but it would definitely be something to question him with.
8. The Rumor Mill is Buzzing.
Yeah. If you hear people mentioning other women and your man... or rumors that he was at the movies with another female when he told you he was going to bed early... probably a red alert. Check into it. Most definitely. But don't always believe rumors. They could just be jealous women.
9. He's Learned New Tricks!
The article states that if he suddenly starts getting really freaky in the sack on things he has NEVER tried before... he may be learning tricks from other girls. This would make me want to punch him in the throat if this is true. But maybe he is just getting comfortable and has decided it is time to spice it up? I wouldn't say he IS cheating, but it definitely could be a possibility. Have I mentioned he's skeavy? LOL
10. The Physical Signs!
Now these do not lie. If your man smells like another woman. Comes home from "a late night at work" smelling like sex, lipstick on his collar, hickeys on his neck... what the HELL are you doing? Kick his sorry ass to the curb. I don't care if you look like a supermodel or if you are a little less than pretty. You don't deserve that and somebody else WILL appreciate you. Don't sell yourself short.
And THAT is the list of signs your guy (or girl really) are cheating. Some are spot on. Others... I think you could just be paranoid. But whatever!
Wednesday, October 17, 2012
It's Not Like the Movies
I shouldn't say life isn't like the movies at all. I guess it is sometimes, in some aspects. But fairy tales do not exist in real life. That is the reality of it. Disney teaches kids that they will grow up and find their prince or princess and live happily ever after. Life isn't that simple.
What you have to realize is that you are your own worst enemy. Heartbreak can only hold you for so long until you decide to start moving forward. Happiness is only good as long as the owner holds onto it. A sliver of darkness can darken that happiness. What I'm trying to say is that we decide our own fate.
Now... for anyone who knows me, they can tell you that I have some shit luck. Bad things happen, usually in groups. But... there is always a light at the end of the tunnel. So every time something bad happens, all I can think is... just a little bit farther.
There have been things in life I have wanted... and things that I have not wanted... and sometimes I get what I want, while other times I do not. I've had best friends who would do anything for me and I've had best friends stab me in the back. Boys have come and gone. Jobs start and end. Life continues.
I think for every woman there comes a time when your internal clock gets so freaking loud that you have a hard time ignoring it. It's like... GET MARRIED! HAVE BABIES! WHAT ARE YOU WAITING FOR! I think my internal clock is ticking, but I'm really good at silencing it for the most part. But it does make you think. I'm 27 (newly). I have a job I do love, a business I put my blood, sweat, and tears into, friends would would do anything for me (I think), a beautiful four year old who brightens my day every time she enters the room, a house, a car, food on the table, music to listen to, family to spend time with.... so therefore... most would say I am doing well. As a girl (or a woman), I can't help but let it cross my mind that I'm not married... I have no possibilities for more kids in the future... Doesn't that make you wonder?
What if I'm broken? Or unwantable? Is that even a word? I don't think so. I don't think I'm that bad of a person. I work hard. I try and rectify the mistakes I made when I was younger. I try and be the best mom I can be. So why doesn't anyone want me? It's a hard question to ask yourself. Now... I'm a bitch. I can be a serious bitch. I tend to want things my way and I have only found one person in my life (opposite sex) that can handle me at my best and worst. Sometimes I question how long he can deal with it to be honest. Aside from that... I do have baggage. It's part of life. Mine might be a bit heavier than some. But it is what it is and I have to live with it. Sometimes I just wish I had someone who wanted to help me bare the load. Someone who is there to say "I'm on your side," when life gets difficult. I feel like people run when things get hard. So instead of sharing my thoughts, fears, etc, I bottle it up and I let it simmer until I can't contain it anymore and I lose it. Tears. Screaming. Whatever the case...
But then I look at my life and realize it's not that bad. It might not be like the movies... but it's pretty good compared to others. And if no man ever decides I'm the one he wants... that's ok too. Because I don't need a man to be happy. I don't want to depend on a man to be happy. It would be nice to have a partner in crime... but I can do it on my own. I've been doing it long enough. So as much as it sucks sometimes... I wipe away the tears, shoulders back, head up, and move forward.
Because ladies.... someday... maybe not tomorrow, next week, or even next year... that guy that you liked so much and you waited for... the one you gave everything to... whatever made him happy... and he decided you weren't the one he wanted. I guarantee he will look back and say "Damn... what was I thinking." So I'm going to hold on to that and all of you should too. You are amazing. You are beautiful. You are intelligent. You are hard working. And you will be missed. Because who can't miss someone that amazing. And as much as it sucks that he didn't realize that sooner... it puts a bit of a smile on your (and my) face to know that one day he's going to look back... and you'll be gone.
People won't wait forever. How's that saying go? One day you'll realize what you had was the best... but the best found better.
What you have to realize is that you are your own worst enemy. Heartbreak can only hold you for so long until you decide to start moving forward. Happiness is only good as long as the owner holds onto it. A sliver of darkness can darken that happiness. What I'm trying to say is that we decide our own fate.
Now... for anyone who knows me, they can tell you that I have some shit luck. Bad things happen, usually in groups. But... there is always a light at the end of the tunnel. So every time something bad happens, all I can think is... just a little bit farther.
There have been things in life I have wanted... and things that I have not wanted... and sometimes I get what I want, while other times I do not. I've had best friends who would do anything for me and I've had best friends stab me in the back. Boys have come and gone. Jobs start and end. Life continues.
I think for every woman there comes a time when your internal clock gets so freaking loud that you have a hard time ignoring it. It's like... GET MARRIED! HAVE BABIES! WHAT ARE YOU WAITING FOR! I think my internal clock is ticking, but I'm really good at silencing it for the most part. But it does make you think. I'm 27 (newly). I have a job I do love, a business I put my blood, sweat, and tears into, friends would would do anything for me (I think), a beautiful four year old who brightens my day every time she enters the room, a house, a car, food on the table, music to listen to, family to spend time with.... so therefore... most would say I am doing well. As a girl (or a woman), I can't help but let it cross my mind that I'm not married... I have no possibilities for more kids in the future... Doesn't that make you wonder?
What if I'm broken? Or unwantable? Is that even a word? I don't think so. I don't think I'm that bad of a person. I work hard. I try and rectify the mistakes I made when I was younger. I try and be the best mom I can be. So why doesn't anyone want me? It's a hard question to ask yourself. Now... I'm a bitch. I can be a serious bitch. I tend to want things my way and I have only found one person in my life (opposite sex) that can handle me at my best and worst. Sometimes I question how long he can deal with it to be honest. Aside from that... I do have baggage. It's part of life. Mine might be a bit heavier than some. But it is what it is and I have to live with it. Sometimes I just wish I had someone who wanted to help me bare the load. Someone who is there to say "I'm on your side," when life gets difficult. I feel like people run when things get hard. So instead of sharing my thoughts, fears, etc, I bottle it up and I let it simmer until I can't contain it anymore and I lose it. Tears. Screaming. Whatever the case...
But then I look at my life and realize it's not that bad. It might not be like the movies... but it's pretty good compared to others. And if no man ever decides I'm the one he wants... that's ok too. Because I don't need a man to be happy. I don't want to depend on a man to be happy. It would be nice to have a partner in crime... but I can do it on my own. I've been doing it long enough. So as much as it sucks sometimes... I wipe away the tears, shoulders back, head up, and move forward.
Because ladies.... someday... maybe not tomorrow, next week, or even next year... that guy that you liked so much and you waited for... the one you gave everything to... whatever made him happy... and he decided you weren't the one he wanted. I guarantee he will look back and say "Damn... what was I thinking." So I'm going to hold on to that and all of you should too. You are amazing. You are beautiful. You are intelligent. You are hard working. And you will be missed. Because who can't miss someone that amazing. And as much as it sucks that he didn't realize that sooner... it puts a bit of a smile on your (and my) face to know that one day he's going to look back... and you'll be gone.
People won't wait forever. How's that saying go? One day you'll realize what you had was the best... but the best found better.
Friday, August 10, 2012
Do Men Really Listen?
Have you ever been sitting with your guy talking and you ask a question, he doesn't answer, and then turns to you with that dumb look? Yeah, most women have. Is it so hard to pay attention? Someone once tried to tell me that women's voices are at a higher octave than men's brains can comprehend. Sounds like something a man would make up.
Know what else drives me crazy? When you ask a man a question and they answer like this...
Me: Hey, do you want Chinese or Pizza for dinner?
Him: Yeah.
Me: ....
WHAT IS THE MATTER WITH YOU!? It was not a yes or no question. It was a choice that you had to make. And your answer is "yeah"? Could you get more annoying? Just answer the damn question. Pay attention. It is not that hard of a concept.
The funny thing is that they do this so often that you do not think they are EVER listening and then they shock you. You will talk about random stuff, things you want, things you love, etc, etc and you never think they are paying attention. But then.... BUT THEN.... they randomly pull it out of no where. Like... surprise you with a movie you've "Always wanted to see" or show up with a present of your all time favorite snack that you hardly ever get. Little things. It's always little things. Or they point out completely random things you do that you never noticed. So perceptive... yet when you TRY to talk to them they never pay attention.
I'll never understand men. It would be in your best interest to never try too hard to understand them. The mystery is more exciting anyway.
K.
Know what else drives me crazy? When you ask a man a question and they answer like this...
Me: Hey, do you want Chinese or Pizza for dinner?
Him: Yeah.
Me: ....
WHAT IS THE MATTER WITH YOU!? It was not a yes or no question. It was a choice that you had to make. And your answer is "yeah"? Could you get more annoying? Just answer the damn question. Pay attention. It is not that hard of a concept.
The funny thing is that they do this so often that you do not think they are EVER listening and then they shock you. You will talk about random stuff, things you want, things you love, etc, etc and you never think they are paying attention. But then.... BUT THEN.... they randomly pull it out of no where. Like... surprise you with a movie you've "Always wanted to see" or show up with a present of your all time favorite snack that you hardly ever get. Little things. It's always little things. Or they point out completely random things you do that you never noticed. So perceptive... yet when you TRY to talk to them they never pay attention.
I'll never understand men. It would be in your best interest to never try too hard to understand them. The mystery is more exciting anyway.
K.
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