Did you ever notice that all your girlfriends always talk about "My guy does this...." or "My guy does that..." and you are like... "No... THIS is what makes my man amazing..."? Well, Cosmo (Yes, it's like a female bible) did a survey and found out what really makes a man good in bed. Here are what some women said.
1. "HE FOCUSES ON YOU"
If a man worries only about himself, you can be sure that the sex is not going to be very good for you. So a man who takes the time to focus on you will make sex amazing. Have you ever had a REALLY hot guy that was HORRIBLE in bed because he was so focused on himself that you barely had any pleasure? Yeah... so guys... pay a little attention and you will rock our world!
2. "HE PAYS ATTENTION"
According to a Cosmo reader, a man who can follow feedback, such as "faster, slower, softer, harder, and so on" will get an orgasm out of a girl. I'm not one to command. Moans and "Oh yes!" can pretty much tell him how he's doing, in my opinion.
3. "HE MAKES YOU FEEL SPECIAL... IN A SEXY WAY"
Cosmo readers basically said that a man who can make you feel like the only woman in the world that can make him feel that way... makes you feel like a million bucks. The sex is that much better if he makes you feel special. You don't want to think about someone else possibly doing a better job.
4. "HE'S IN FOR THE WHOLE EXPERIENCE"
It's not just about having sex... or "two body parts coming together". It's about the whole experience. It's about connecting. Sex where there is a connection between the people (even outside the sack) is so much more pleasurable and fulfilling. The two of you should make it a moment in time that is just between the two of you. A moment where everything else falls away.
5. "HE'S GOT THE GOODS"
Bad kissing? Unable to move his hips properly? All that spoils it. It doesn't matter what kind of personal connection you may have. In my experience, great lips, a decent package, and moves... that about does it.
6. "HE'S KINDA KINKY"
I agree with this. One of my favorite things is when he comes out of no where and surprises you with something. A smack on the ass. A naughty word muttered in your ear. Nibbling. It's all good in my opinion. It doesn't have to be all the time, but an occasional moment spices things up and keeps it interesting.
7. "HE UNDERSTANDS MY BODY"
Ok... I have had experiences where it is clear that the man had NO idea what he was doing. And then I've had the most... amazing sex. It's as if during the act... he knows my body more than me. Things where he does something and you are kind of like... whoa... I didn't know that would happen! So yes... a man who understands what he is doing and understands how your body reacts is definitely a keeper!
8. "HE CAN TAKE FEEDBACK LIKE A CHAMP"
A Cosmo reader says that the guy should be open to suggestions and taking instruction if the girl things it should be done slightly different. No barking orders... again that is a turn off. But simply advising him of things or leading him to what is good... I agree with.
9. "HE STAYS IN THE MOMENT"
Nobody wants a man who reaches for his phone mid thrust because it goes off. If the phone makes a noise... I don't want him to even pretend like he heard it. Feelings should be too heightened to make reaching for the phone a thought in your mind. He needs to stay with you. Concentrate on your body and his.
10. "HE KEEPS DISTRACTIONS TO A MINIMUM"
This goes with #9. Stay in the moment. If something is distracting, eliminate it. Simple as that. Be there.
And there you have it... this is what women want and what makes them think their man is good in bed.